May 2020 Newsletter
Hello, and a meaningful May to you!
Performing, or being yourself
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter.
Today's issue is about performing, or being yourself.
With many people staying home now hoping to help flatten the coronavirus curve,
it's more difficult to look polished, even if you have to be on a video call.
The place you get those great haircuts is temporarily closed, at least for a few more weeks.
I had a front tooth extracted two and a half months ago, and won't be able to get it replaced
for at least another 2 months. Other professional grooming, like getting one's nails done
or hair colored, now has to be put on hold or attempted at home, often with less-than-ideal results.
The NY show Saturday Night Live has been broadcasting for over 40 years, with its
catch phrase "Live from NY -- it's Saturday night!". They recently did the first non-live show ever,
on the Zoom video platform, with the cast members safe at home.
No professional makeup or perfect lighting or ideal camera angles, yet it
worked pretty well. Fans appreciated the effort, which was much better than no show at all,
and it highlighted how we're all in the same boat right now.
Yes, I would dearly love a haircut, and am not about to put myself or anyone else at risk to get
one. I'm so grateful I'm healthy and have enough food and other necessities! Looking a
little shaggy and less than perfectly groomed seems insignificant. I've heard it said that
this crisis is having people's true selves come out: if a person is selfish and entitled,
he'll be more so now, feeling inconvenienced and not thinking of others. And the generous big-hearted
folks among us are being even more helpful than usual.
This could be true of appearance and physical "image" too. One famous newscaster recently gave
himself a haircut, then joked about his big new bald spot, since he'd cut one side of his
hair a little shorter than the other. Of course he wants to look polished, yet these are very
unusual circumstances, and we know he's doing the best he can. Some of us are very glad
our own job does not involve being on TV for millions of eyes to scrutinize!
So how are you doing with the balance between impressing others, and being your true self? In a few days
I'll be attending an on-line event which was supposed to be across the country from me. I'll still need
a haircut and be missing a front tooth, yet I'll go and participate fully, hoping no one decides not to listen to me
because I look less than perfect. I'd like to make a difference and contribute what I can, while still being myself.
In my energy medicine classes we often talk about the difference between being On Push,
and in being On Allow. This is regarding healing work, but I think it applies in many other
areas too. The egotistical practitioner who approaches a client with the attitude of "I know
how to fix you!" (implying the client is broken!) has the wrong attitude, and may be of limited help.
You can feel when someone genuinely wants to help, or is forcing their opinion or "performance" on you.
Much better to offer what you have with an open heart, appreciating that you can share it with others.
To read my thoughts on strong lenses forcing my vision to perform,
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Enjoy the start of this magical month of May.
I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!