September 2017 Newsletter
Hello, and a sensational September to you!
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter. The photo above was
taken by a friend at an energy medicine gathering. She said something
silly like "OK, now see if you can look pretty". This is why I have that
grin, while also trying to be indignant. Do you spend time with good friends
who make you laugh?
Today's issue has an article about assigning meaning to an event, and how
that could lock you into a negative viewpoint, or open up a positive one.
What did you make it mean?
You may have heard the fable about the farmer who had a strong son
(good, you think). The son suffered a leg injury (bad, you think),
then couldn't be drafted by the military (good?!). It goes
on, but of course the point is that almost every experience
can have an upside, no matter how gloomy the future may look
If you scan back over your life, you can probably find an
event which initially seemed horrible, then led you to
something much better. Maybe that sudden job loss prompted
you to start your own successful company. Or that scary
health diagnosis put you on a road of fitness and eating right.
With this "hindsight is 20/20" perspective, it becomes obvious
we're not always looking at the big picture, or taking the long
view. This is especially true when we're faced with a big new
problem -- it's only human to overreact and disaster-ize.
To quote Chicken Little, the sky is falling! One of my
friends worries about everything. When she has a headache,
she always wonders if she's getting a brain tumor! This
sounds funny, and I think it's a big waste of her energy.
A better approach when something "bad" (remember, you may
see this differently later!) happens may be to ask "What's
good about this?". Sure, take care of the problem and clean
up the mess first. Then also see if there's learning here. Did
this teach you what not to do again? Are you now remembering
earlier warning signs you chose to ignore?
Another place this shows up is with others "making us" feel
hurt (or anxious, or slighted, or...). I recently participated
in a group coaching call, where it seemed everyone had this
issue. The man comes home, looks at the woman with a frown,
and she makes it mean that he thinks she's not doing enough
around the house! Maybe he's still annoyed at the traffic
on the drive home, nothing to do with her at all.
With all this in mind, why not make an event mean something positive
and helpful and uplifting, since we have the choice? This can be
useful with strange, possibly alarming, body symptoms. Remember
my friend who worried that her headache might be a brain tumor? Perhaps
that new pain or inflammation is only your body talking to you
the one way it can, with symptoms, asking you to change your habits.
One area where I've found this approach particularly useful
is in taking another look at some troubling situation in the
past. Maybe that critical teacher or parent who drove you so
hard saw enormous potential in you, and didn't want you to
waste your talent. Maybe you didn't get the help you thought
you needed back then, because others needed the resources
more, yet look how you managed to move forward anyway. Things
usually have a way of working out.
So about that remark or reaction or event which hurt your
feelings, whether it happened 5 minutes ago or 30 years ago,
what would your wise loving grandmotherly guardian angel say
about it? Look how capable you are, and you're much bigger
than this little trifle. Hold your head high, know you're loved
and worthy, and are doing the best you can. Who could ask for more?
To read about visual blur, and what people often make it mean,
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Enjoy the start of your September.
I'll write again in a couple of weeks. Take care!