October 2017 Newsletter
Hello, and an over-the-top October to you!
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter. The photo of me was
taken when I was helping my energy teacher with a workshop.
You can see the head mic just past the right side of my mouth.
Today's issue has an article about rushing. Is it really necessary?
What's the rush?
When you're in real danger, you naturally want to hurry to safety.
That heightened fight-or-flight mindset developed as a survival
mechanism to keep the human race alive!
Yet too many of us, me included,
seem to have our alarms stuck in the On position, and be rushing
when it's not really necessary. Yes, there can be a sense of
excitement about getting a lot done in a small amount of time,
a sense of satisfaction over being what one of my productive
sisters calls "a pinnacle of efficiency", as she laughs a bit at herself.
And being in a driven anxious state too often can also exhaust you.
If you see yourself in the businessman on the hamster wheel racing
to nowhere, or in the man hurrying and losing important papers,
are there any body signals you can tune into that
warn you you're in an unhealthy pattern? For me, if
I'm talking, I start talking faster, and in a higher pitch.
My breathing gets faster and more shallow, the breath up high in
my chest instead of deep in my belly.
When I become aware of this behavior, I can consciously take
actions to reverse it. I can breathe more slowly, and speak in
a lower pitch. Doing this calms my body, helping me feel safe so
I naturally relax. Much of what triggers this response is anything
but a crisis, like one more email from someone important to
me, when I'm already too busy. It's not usually necessary to drop
everything else and respond right away.
The next avenue to explore is to find what
led me to feel I had to rush. Is the person demanding an answer
immediately (which may or may not be reasonable), or have I created
this pressure all by myself? Maybe I've reverted to an old automatic
pattern left over from a demanding parent or teacher, and my sense of urgency
isn't about the present situation at all!
So if I do realize I'm in an old pattern, what do I do with
that information? Maybe I'm triggered back to a memory of a
parent or teacher who was always pushing me to go faster when
I was little. This awareness alone is huge -- I am reacting to
a past situation, not to the present moment! A surprising amount
of my own emotional growth (and my eyesight improvement) can be
boiled down to learning to be in the Now, not stuck in a memory
or worrying about a possible future which may never happen.
I can't deal effectively with the present if I'm in another time!
If I can catch myself before I get too deep in that rushing pattern
and am on automatic pilot, I now remember to ask myself "How old
do I feel? Am I here in the present?".
When I first started doing this, it was startling to me how much I
was not in the present! No wonder I often stepped in potholes,
both literally and figuratively, and tripped myself up. If I can
manage to stay in the present and remain aware, I'll naturally make
better choices, not just react in a knee-jerk way. I'll often find
rushing isn't needed, since I can just respond appropriately to what
comes my way, at a pace that suits me and doesn't make me feel stressed.
I'm coming to find I can get more done if I don't rush, and have
more fun in the process! Who knew?
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Enjoy the first half of your October.
I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!