Mid-May 2018 Newsletter
Hello, and a mighty Mid-May to you!
Does Worrying Help?
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter.
Today's issue is about worrying, and how it might be getting in your way.
The Law Of Attraction (LOA) says to focus on the positive,
and good things will come to you. If worrying is putting
our attention on what could go wrong, are we drawing those
unwanted events toward us by worrying about them? I don't
know, but I do know it struck me strongly when an energy
healing classmate told me seriously, "Worry is negative
prayer." Yikes! And I've been a worrier all of my life.
Maybe it's time to revisit this familiar habit.
"Don't worry, be happy!" seems naive and uninformed. Look around
you -- there's a lot to worry about! And the White Rabbit in
the Alice in Wonderland story fretting "Oh, my ears and whiskers!
I'm running late!" is a caricature of too much worry, when mild
concern and some attention to detail would be plenty for the
situation. So if I can't let go of worry completely, since
that seems irresponsible, I can at least dial down the intensity of it.
Thinking and worrying are not the same thing! And avoiding something
which needs our attention doesn't usually lead to it getting any better.
At best there is no change, and many times a situation which is ignored
just gets worse. Procrastination is not a true solution, it's
only postponing dealing with something which seems unpleasant.
Similarly, denial that a problem exists doesn't make it magically go away.
In a recent discussion with a conscientious professional man about
his career, it suddenly became obvious to me that when he said he
was thinking about a troubling aspect of his job, he was actually
worrying about it! It was a problem he needed to solve to
move forward. Yet he said he wanted to avoid thinking about it
because it didn't seem to have an obvious solution.
Almost always, for things to change we have to do something, take some
action, however small. Just wishing and hoping rarely does
more than leave us frustrated, which doesn't feel much
better than worrying! We're still in a situation we don't
like, and not feeling good about that, or about ourselves
for being unable to fix it. What baby step could you take to
restore your faith in your own competence? Often just
scheduling an appointment with a trusted expert, whether that
be a financial advisor or relationship counselor or health
coach, can shift the energy from stagnant and stuck to
Here's a little trick I sometimes use to encourage myself to take
action when I feel stuck. I imagine I've already completed
something, then place that appealing mental image out in front of me
in my future to pull me forward. The sense of satisfaction at "a
job well done" (and on lazy days that could just be the laundry!)
seems to motivate me. I not only go ahead and tackle the job I've
been avoiding and worrying about, this often fuels me to do
something extra. Making progress, especially in a formerly stuck
area, can be extremely satisfying. See how capable you are, and
To read about my lifelong worry about my vision, and how I
gradually shifted that,
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Enjoy the second half of your May.
I'll write again in a couple of weeks. Take care!