Mid-August 2016 Newsletter
Hello, and a amazing Mid-August to you!
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter. The photo above shows
me in a desert setting, my lavender shirt matching the purple
cactus, which is why my photographer friend took it. I feel like a
chameleon blending into my surroundings!
Today's issue has an article on changing long-standing patterns.
Are you ready to let go of "the way it's always been"?
In my training with
I've become highly aware of others, or myself, saying
"I've always been...". Complete this sentence however
you wish. Maybe it's with "short-tempered", or "bad
with money", or "lazy", or something else. Well, does
the way it's been have to be the way it is in the future?
Or could we be unnecessarily limiting ourselves?
Sometimes we move forward naturally, supported by those
around us. A 20-year-old can't remain in elementary school!
And sometimes our interests or priorities change, and we
leave that restrictive job or relationship for one that
suits us better. And yes, occasionally we do have to be
dragged out of our familiar cozy role, or be pushed.
In thinking about times in my own life when I've moved out of my
comfort zone, it was easiest when I was un-comfortable!
Change, even when I wasn't sure how it would turn out, looked
like a clear improvement over my current situation. In late
winter in my second year of teaching math, I told the head of
the department I wouldn't be coming back the following year.
I didn't have anything else lined up, yet going home with
a headache most days from what felt more like baby-sitting than
true teaching was not for me, and I couldn't deny it any longer.
After teaching, I was fortunate to find a corporate programming job.
Looking back, I was a little too comfortable here, using my
math and analytical skills, and hardly communicating with anyone.
It took me many years to realize how this job was keeping me
from growing. I wound up spending my non-work time exploring
what really interested me, first
Yet when I tried to discuss these subjects with my engineer
co-workers, I was laughed at or dismissed.
The last few years in my corporate job felt like going to a prison
cell every dsy. When I shut my office door I felt trapped.
The difference between what was desirable in a
"corporate slave" and who I was as a person seemed to grow wider
and wider. When I finally left, though I was a bit nervous about
losing that great salary, I was so much happier -- I felt free.
As I adjusted to living on less and hardly saving anything, I
grew very comfortable not having to answer to anyone. I could
study and work out as much as I wanted! And in a few years I
started to feel selfish -- I was learning so much about how to
be heathy and happy, so why wasn't I sharing it for the benefit
An area which hasn't been comfortable for me is interacting
socially. I have been so introverted at times, it seemed
I was afraid of people. As I grew my business of teaching
and coaching, every single step scared me. I also knew
it was necessary. Create a website? ACK! Write a blog? Yikes --
who would read it? If someone did, would he or she yell
at me for what I wrote? Hold private sessions, setting
myself up as a professional? Who do I think I am (in the accusing
tone of someone criticizing me for hubris). Well, once I started
to earn money, and my tax guy validated that I had a
real business, it was so affirming!
So I'm finally learning to recognize when I'm not stretching
myself enough, when my comfort zone of today feels too cozy to
leave. Right now the challenge is advertising my business to
bring in more clients, without being pushy. I'm hoping people
will "just find me", some of which does happen, but if I promoted
myself gently, maybe I could help more people with what I know.
Take a look at your own comfort zones: career, relationships,
family, health. Is it time to move toward some temporary discomfort,
so you can grow?
To read more about comfort zones, including visual ones,
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Enjoy the second half of your August.
I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!