Mid-April 2015 Newsletter

Hello, and a magnificent mid-April to you!
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter. The photo above was a surprise to me, taken by my stealth photographer friend at breakfast in a tropical location. It was starting to warm up, and I took off my outer shirt as I laughed at something she said. Better to be caught laughing than grumpy!

Today's issue has 2 articles, the first on fight-or-flight and eyestrain. The second is on using EFT to give perspective to childhood hurts. Enjoy!

Vision: Fight or flight and eyestrain

People often tell me that when they wake up, their eyes feel fresh and alive. They can see clearly. Yet as the day goes on, they develop eyestrain, and their vision seems to decline. Do they just need to rest their eyes more often, maybe take occasional palming breaks? Maybe, and that may not be enough. Resting your eyes, like any part of your body which has been working hard, is a good idea. It's also a great idea to notice how you feel when you're looking. If you're glaring at those unpaid bills, my guess is you're not relaxed! Throughout your day, are you having to look at one annoying person after another? Or at a scene which makes you anxious, like the growing clutter in the corner of the room? If so, since you're not happy, your vision won't be happy either.

If you say to your eyes and brain "I don't want to see this!" at the same time you're telling them "We have to look at it!", you're sending mixed signals. This causes confusion, which is static and interference for your visual channel. You can see much better, with pleasure instead of strain, if your seeing, attitude, thoughts, and feelings are aligned. Look for the good around you, and allow yourself the joy of fully seeing it.

To read more about my own experience of fighting with or fleeing from what my eyes were showing me, click here.

If you're interested in exploring and improving your own looking habits, consider a Vision Coaching session. I'd love to work with you.

Recently I participated in a weekend workshop with my EFT teacher Carol Look. It happened repeatedly that someone would have a current life issue, say a money challenge or a stressful relationship with a boss, and when Carol explored this, the roots would be far in the past. One woman said she was always defending herself and justifying her actions, that people didn't like her no matter what she did. She was clearly skilled and smart, yet never felt good enough. Asking "When is the first time you remember feeling like this?" (a classic EFT question), caused her to start crying.

When you're stuck is a destructive pattern like this, it doesn't feel like a choice. You've reverted in your mind to a time when you really didn't have choices, as children often don't. And a "minor" incident to an adult can be enormous to a child, as the Dickens quote says. You want to regain the perspective of the adult you are now, with all the resources you have. Your world is full of possibilities -- embrace them!

If you'd like to explore a situation which causes you to revert to a negative part of your past, consider an EFT Coaching session. Together we can untangle your past from your present, to help you be more fully in the Here and Now.

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Let me know what you've wondered about concerning vision or dreams or EFT. I'll be glad to write a short article addressing that topic. Thank you to those who have sent me questions, or see a question you asked me in a private session written about here. You're helping many other people! Enjoy the last part of April. I'll write again in a couple of weeks. Take care!