June 2017 Newsletter
Hello, and a jubilant June to you!
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter. The photo above was
taken on a walk through desert property, when my friend spotted
the rock next to me with the grinding hole. Many years ago Native
women prepared flour here to feed their families. Seeing and
understanding this made me feel more connected to this dry climate.
Today's issue has an article about having a problem, and being proud
of it as if it's an asset.
Are you proud you have that problem?
Literature is full of quotes about the dangers of pride.
"Pride goeth before a fall." Lately I've noticed a strange
dynamic. A woman I barely knew came up to me telling me
right away she had fibromyalgia. Did she want sympathy?
Not to have too many expectations put on her? She seemed to
want to wrap this diagnosis around her like a cloak, as if
it defined her, since she kept talking about it.
Last week a man in the grocery store started telling me about
his heart bypass operation, out of nowhere, about the surgeon
who did many of these procedures a day, how his unhealthy
lifestyle had probably led to this, on and on. I congratulated him on
his recovery and told him he looked good, hoping to help him
believe in himself. Since his breathing was labored, I gently
asked if it was OK for him to exercise. He replied yes, he
should be exercising, which was a red flag to me -- he didn't
say he was! I had a feeling he'd rather tell the dramatic
story than see himself as doing the hard work to become fit
and healthy again.
One more example. Several months ago I posted an article I'd
written about a common eye condition, with some holistic
suggestions for relief. A woman who has this condition read it,
and I guess I stepped on her toes. She thought I was minimizing
her big problem, which was not at all my intent! She told me
how painful it was, and how none of the treatments seemed to help.
I could feel her clinging tightly to her diagnosis, unwilling to
let it start shifting, so she'd be more comfortable and peaceful.
Might you be stubbornly proud of something about yourself,
thinking that's just the way you are, rather than trying to
change? It's your choice to hang onto the way things are
now if that's what you want to do. And if you don't try to
shift the pattern, you will stay stuck. "Nothing ventured,
No one says change is easy, whether it's implementing an exercise
routine or a healthier diet or giving up a destructive habit like
smoking or screaming at your kids. Just because your family is
like this, that doesn't mean you have to be! "Oh, both my parents
wear strong glasses (or have a temper, or drink too much, or ...)"
sounds like an excuse for not taking responsibility for yourself.
Yes, it might feel like an uphill fight at first as you break
those familiar habits, and you might have to let some of your
drinking buddy friends go and find some new sober ones. And it
will be your life, you won't be following someone else's
program. Won't that feel great?
I invite you to take a look at your "problem", to see if it's
an invitation in disguise, prompting you to move forward. Wouldn't
it be nice, a year from now, to see it as something you've overcome,
or at least that it's well on the way to being part of your history?
People would much rather listen to inspiring human stories of a
challenge faced, what you learned from it, and that now it's in the
past. When you complain about a long-standing problem, you're
only teaching that Life is suffering. When you're solving your
problems, even if it's with a lot of trial and error, you're teaching
that Life is growth and progress.
To read about me being overly proud of my limited vision,
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Enjoy the start of your June.
I'll write again in a couple of weeks. Take care!