July 2017 Newsletter
Hello, and a lovely lazy July to you!
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter. The photo above is the
earliest one I have of myself. It makes me laugh because while
my Mom is holding me proudly, I'm looking apprehensively down at the
floor, maybe afraid I'll fall. July is my birthday month, and always
feels like a fresh start. So if your New Year's resolution hasn't
held up, renew it, for the 2nd half of the year! No time like the
present to start again.
Today's issue has an article about how a fresh approach to that same
old problem might help you finally move forward.
Is it time for a different approach to that problem?
Albert Einstein said insanity is doing the same thing over
and over again, and expecting different results. Does this
describe a situation in your life? Maybe you've had that same
argument with a relative for years. Or you've struggled with
various fitness programs, or money management plans, and you
feel like you're either completely stuck, or things are
getting worse! Clearly it's time for something different,
First, is it possible to give up the struggle?
Maybe you don't have to see that annoying relative at all,
or can keep your conversation to a minimum if you happen to
attend the same family function. If you hate going to the
gym with the chattering people (and you feel they're all
judging you for your imperfect body), don't go! You can now
look for another fitness option which suits you better, which
might be working out at home, then going for regular brisk
walks with a friend.
By "give up the struggle", I don't mean give up the goal. If what
you've done so far isn't helping you make progress, it might be
time to consult an expert in the field. Maybe you just need some
education in debt management, or healthy eating, or relationship
skills. There's no shame in admitting you don't know something
you "should", even if few other people around you seem to have
difficulty with it. We're all unique, and many of us had gaps
in our life training. The only real shame is in not
reaching for help if you need it.
Sometimes the problem is that we're too hard on ourselves. If you
recently gave up cigarettes (good for you!), then deeply inhaled
a friend's smoke at a party like it was the scent of roses,
instead of beating yourself up for "failing", let it go!
And maybe you could be a good example for your smoker friend, who is
probably jealous of you. If you vowed to go to the gym every day
before work and missed a day, so what? How many people never
go at all? I get a lot more mileage from praising myself for
what I did do, even if I wasn't perfect at it, than I do from
criticizing myself. Plus it feels a lot better!
Maybe you read that and thought "I'm not pushing myself enough!".
I think we've all been pushed plenty, by well-meaning parents
and teachers and social norms and the media, and eventually by
ourselves. If you really want to do something, you don't have
to be pushed to do it -- it's fun! So how can you make what
you want to do more fun? Be creative here. Can you add music,
or the company of a playful child, to the activity?
When I was younger my habit was to set a goal, learn as much
as I could about how to achieve it, then dive in, pushing and
striving. I thought not trying as hard as I could was being
lazy! Now I prefer to set the goal, then feel it pulling me
forward, at a pace that's both comfortable and productive.
Keep your focus on that goal, then just keep moving forward,
while you imagine yourself successful. You'll be there before
you know it. Then you'll enjoy setting the next goal, and have
fun starting out toward that.
To read about how I changed my approach to visual blur,
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Enjoy the first part of your July.
I'll write again in a couple of weeks. Take care!