December 2025 Newsletter

Hello, and a delicious December to you!
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter. Today's issue is about our attitude toward what shows up in our lives. Enjoy!

You may have learned in high school biology about one-celled organisms such as a paramecium or an amoeba, and their tropisms. These are automatic reflex-like reactions to either move toward something desirable, say food, or to move away from something unpleasant, like a predator or something which seems toxic. Humans, for all our high-level development, can have knee-jerk unthinking responses too.

Of course we need to develop habits as we learn and grow, so we can free ourselves from having to concentrate on how to walk, or to tie our shoes, or to drive our car. Yet doing too many things by rote without thinking, or without really looking, can be risky or even dangerous. Going through Life on auto-pilot, "phoning it in" without being truly present to our experience, means we can miss a lot, from sensations to connections.

The image of an angry mob is a great example of situations I'd like to avoid. I much prefer serenity to noise or chaos or violence. Yet we can't always dodge these types of events, or stay away from troublesome people, though we won't want to stay in that negative energy any longer than necessary.

The way we cope with being somewhere we don't want to be is a good way to think about what our vision might do when it doesn't want to look at something. Yes, sometimes we can walk away, or change the channel to avoid a violent news broadcast, and sometimes we have to stay there and endure. Think of a child in school who wants to be outside playing, not putting up with a boring lesson, or is forced to visit relatives who make him uncomfortable. We can look while doing our best not to let in too much, which is a very conflicting message to give the visual system.

Unfortunately, children often have little choice about where they go or what they're facing to let into their visual brain. As adults we can control our environment to a large degree, but how often do we extend that control to our visual environment? If you don't want to look at something, do you just put up with it anyway, getting more and more tense and upset? Do you try not to see too much, if it's troubling behavior from someone you care about? Clear vision is about what's actually happening or showing up in the present, not what you wish was happening.

Many people shut down their vision due to some discrepancy between what they see and what they want to see. Eyes want to see beauty, enthusiasm, and kindness, and so much of the world around us is not that way. Just like we can choose healthy delicious nourishing food to eat, or nourishing supportive relationships, we can also decide to let our eyes gaze on scenes which make us feel good and nourish us emotionally, as much as possible. If you're resisting seeing what's around you, maybe you need to change the environment, or your attitude about it. If you look with the eyes of a child, there is beauty, delight, and fascinating learning everywhere.

For more about being pulled to look, click here.

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Let me know what you've wondered about concerning energy medicine or vision or dreams. I'll be glad to write a short article addressing that topic. Thank you to those who have sent me questions, or see a question you asked me in a private session written about here.  You're helping many other people! Enjoy the start of this delectable month of December. I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!