August 2019 Newsletter
Hello, and an absolutely amazing August to you!
Do you define yourself by your problem(s)?
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter.
Today's issue is about centering your identity around your struggles, past or present.
"I'm a cancer survivor", or "I have 3 children, 2 in primary school
and one who died at birth". While overcoming a serious illness, or
losing a child, are major life events which shape your outlook and
may influence your future choices, they do not tell the full story
of who you are. And defining yourself this way can tie you
to a past of pain and struggle, when your present is pretty good.
Sometimes it's not a past problem you've overcome, but a past success you
hang onto, since Life hasn't been all that great since. Think of the high school
athlete reliving his glory days decades ago, when he was fit and popular.
Like the person who defines herself by a former struggle, he's missing the
precious present moment.
Since I wore thick glasses as a child, then strong contact
lenses as an adult, I saw myself as Nancy Nearsighted, and
that's probably how I presented myself to others too. In fact
I remember worrying that my contact lenses would deceive people
into thinking I had good eyesight! Now my vision history, and
improvement, is just a small part of my story, not all of it.
Conquering a big challenge helps us feel good about ourselves, and can give us
fuel to face future obstacles. Think of the attitude of the Little Engine That
Could, of "I think I can", as it tackled that big hill. Yet hanging on too tightly
to this past success could also keep us a bit stuck. If I've been out of glasses
for years and seeing pretty well without them, it's fair to ask what I've done
lately. I don't want to think I'll never do anything else I'm proud of again!
Everyone's different, and what's easy for one may be more difficult
for another. So don't apologize if your little triumph may not seem like
much of an accomplishment. Be proud of yourself! I could be called
high-strung (my friends are laughing at this understatement). So
whenever I manage to stay reasonably centered in a chaotic situation,
like getting a flat tire yesterday in traffic, I congratulate myself.
Most of us have many facets: careers and hobbies and important relationships
and skills and talents. So when meeting someone new who asks about you, this
is a golden chance to redefine yourself in a more positive way. How does
'I'm studying to be ...." or "I'm working toward becoming ..." sound?
It's your life, and you're moving toward your future every day with
your actions and words. Why not make it the best it can be?
To read about my slowly letting go of my identity as a nearsighted
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Enjoy the start of your August.
I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!